It isn’t what you think it is. By David Reid Otey

The news report said–whatever they say. But it’s mostly not what you think it is, if all you think is what they say it is. Truth is what you get when you’ve seen the situation from all angles and get the one picture that fits all the angles. Sherlock Holmes was noted for getting all the possible information and then seeing how it all connects before creating  the real situation and thereby gain the real answer for the dilemma. It takes time and connections and wisdom with more objectivity than subjectivity, to accomplish an environment of truthfulness. Detecting lies,  false fronts and slight of hands are part of truthful and comprehensive research for the most accurate report possible. Some elements of truth are blatantly obvious and can seem to present enough evidence for the framework in which to place everything else gathered up. BUT–sometimes THAT’s not truthful IF the blatantly obvious elements are not really part of the frame but–instead–belong to the inside arena. You know, this extensive blah, blah, blah scenario of finding the truth boils down to this: what caused the event I am looking at, and what caused the reason that caused the event, and so on–in other words—you are looking for the correct order of words and actions in the chain of cause and effect.

Decades ago the television program, Laugh-In, presented a hilarious sketch about a reporter taking oral information from a ”witness” and ”spinning” it into a completely different story that was false. That sort sketch had a very strong message: you hear an order of words and actions that might not be what really happened.  Truth is the correct information placed in the correct order of cause and effect. So, unless you know for certain every element of every circumstance  for any situation that deals with your life or someone else’s life, hold back judgement and hold back any commitment of support or condemnation you intend to jump in with. Remember the words of the song, Smiling Faces: sometimes they don’t tell the truth. Beware of the pat on the back. It just might hold you back. Bandwagon philosophy has ruined many lives, many families, many friendships and many neighborhoods that were impossible to reconnect once the TRUTH really came out. Be very, very careful about what you see and what you hear, especially from the lips of others who report what you never heard nor saw in the first place. Sometimes it isn’t what you think it is.   The End–or is it ?

How did that get here ?

My wife and I walked across the street from a closed bar parking lot to the fitness center. Near to the curb at the intersection, I was looked down to step up and I saw a cheap, plastic purple necklace in the dirt. Three feet away from that was a shard of  broken pottery. I wondered, “How did that get here ?”  I  guessed the necklace came from party favors at the last New Year’s Eve party in the closed bar. Maybe the broken piece of pottery fell off a truck or out of someone’s pocket as they walked by.

A lot what we need in life–things and people–are found ”by chance”, ”by fate”, ”coincidence”. People and things sort of ”drop off” from something or someone else because of backfired plans or  on the spur of the moment or  not wanted anymore. Bits and pieces make up a collage. Scattered notes, different melodies and different rhythms make up a song. We cannot have a full life with just one friend and only one experience. Understanding and personal growth go together from the bits and pieces of sharing within others lives, regardless how long the connection and type of relationship it is.

Every one of us are a collage of those bits and pieces. Some of the bits and pieces we don’t like we carry anyway because someone convinced us we had to. Everyone we meet and connect to means we are both connecting to each others variations, to each others collage of pleasures and pains, of joys and sorrows that will affect how we respond to each other depending upon the circumstances and the situations formed by those circumstances. And THAT is where we are supposed to grow, to help each other see and feel what is the truth about which bits and pieces we should keep and which we can throw away on the side of life’s road, so empowerment and encouragement can move our spirits higher to who we really are and who we are meant to become with the talents within us.

How did you get where you are ?   How will you get to where you want to be ? Who will you connect to and listen to for ideas to try that you would not have found on your own power? Who has the ideas and plans to follow that could help you be at the place you need to be ?  Check your mental and spiritual back packs for who and what you really need and what–or who–you need to disconnect from.  Everything means something. Every thought and every action comes from an influence, from some sideline experience we were pushed or persuaded or forced to become a part of. And once CHOICE entered our independence we then have the ability and the power to decide a lot of what we become.  The End.